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вЂњThe вЂitвЂ™s not bad parenting, itвЂ™s just teasingвЂ™ tactic where you publicly humiliate your kid and pass it off as joking around, even though itвЂ™s designed to embarrass/upset the kid (and you would never tolerate a role reversal). Sometimes, kids need to fail at something in order to learn.вЂќ It honestly fucks with kidsвЂ™ mental health when someone knows literally every small thing they do. DonвЂ™t get me wrong, you should develop a bond with your kids, but when you start being their best friend, they think they can get away with anything, and they will develop bad habits because of it.вЂќ вЂњSolving problems for your children rather than teaching solutions and practical skills.вЂќ

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Solving problems for them rather than teaching them how to solve problems. вЂњLately IвЂ™ve heard about people never saying вЂnoвЂ™ to their child because it might harm them. Never saying вЂnoвЂ™ because it might harm them.

Maybe once in a while is okay (вЂYou were good today so letвЂ™s go get some ice cream!вЂ™) but it should never be used as a bargaining chip (вЂIf you clean your room you can have some cookies.вЂ™)вЂќДЁ. She will have very little to do with my new family because of it.вЂќ It took me well past my teenage years to realize that I am NOT a burden to my family. She had me at 18 and my brother at 22, so we took away her youth, her money, her happiness, and her precious time. вЂњMy mother was famous for telling us how badly we ruined her life. Telling them they ruined the parentвЂ™s life. If youвЂ™re going to punish them (or make any choice that will ultimately effect your childвЂ™s life) you better damn well have a reason whyвЂќД¦. Parents вЂ“ PLEASE use logical reasoning with your children. My mom always pulled that line, and I never respected when she would discipline me because I couldnвЂ™t understand why. вЂњUsing вЂbecause IвЂ™m the parentвЂ™ as reasoning for absolutely anything and everything. So now with my daughter, she knows exactly why I say no to something.вЂќ вЂњSaying вЂbecause I said so.вЂ™ My dad and mom did this to me and I hated it. It sucks for both the вЂbadвЂ™ kid and the вЂgoodвЂ™ one.вЂќ Please, donвЂ™t compare your kids to one another. It made me a panicky, anxious perfectionist.

It made my brother insecure and unhappy, and I suspect thatвЂ™s a reason why he got into drugs and doesnвЂ™t speak to me anymore. AT first it made me feel good to be called the better kid- but then I realized that my brother resented me immensely, I couldnвЂ™t keep up with the impossible standards my parents set, it was difficult trying to be the perfect daughter all the time, and every minor thing I did wrong was treated like I murdered someone. My brother was always the problem child and I was the вЂsmartвЂ™ one.